Loss and Gain

We have a saying in Chinese, 塞翁失馬,焉知非福 – ‘like the man who lost his horse, who’s to know if it’s not good fortune’?  Rather a mouthful when translated into English, but like most Chinese sayings, there’s a story to go with it.

I thought of this when I was told that my Chinese calligraphy workshop and the course for the next two terms have been cancelled due to the lack of interest.

The story goes:  A man lost a mare that strayed over the border but needed no sympathy.  He said, who knows? it may be a good thing.  His mare came back with a stallion in tow but he wanted no congratulations.  He said, it may not be a good thing.  His son rode the stallion, fell off and broke a leg.  Again he said it may turn out OK and sure enough, when the army came through his town and conscripted the young men to war, his son was left behind due to his injury.  Few of the others returned.  So the loss of the mare resulted in his son surviving the war.

I am a volunteer tutor so it’s not as if I’ll be losing income.  In fact, I’ve gained many hours of leisure due to the cancellation.  For years I’ve been wanting to go back to playing with clay.  Now I have time.


About Mary Tang

An urban orchardist everyday, a volunteer regularly, a poet sometimes and a blogger since March 2015. I travel when I can. Food is a constant.
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17 Responses to Loss and Gain

  1. When I find a new site to follow I go to a post that is closest to my birthdate and often find a gem. This is a gem. Do you have the saying written in pinyin because I like to learn it because it makes such a lot of sense to me right now because big changes are happening.

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  2. Cynthia says:

    I’m noticing I dont react to things the way I used to and don’t judge situations as “good’ or “bad” as much as I’m getting older. it’s easier.
    I like your sculpture too. I had a laugh reading your comment that you make crazy things with clay….I bet you do!!

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  3. mattb325 says:

    I like the saying. It’s rings very true (although we’re too often caught in the moment of whatever is happening to realise). I also like that clay sculpture…it’s excellent!

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  4. arlingwoman says:

    This reminded me of a story about two boats on a river. One, loaded and piloted, crashes into another and there is much shouting. One crashes into another without a pilot and there is no shouting. The lesson was about going through life empty… One thing leads to another.

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  5. I love this. :) it reminds me of Kahlil Gibran, “And could you keep your heart in wonder at the daily miracles of your life, your pain would not seem less wondrous than your joy”. I really look forward to seeing your clay works!! :)

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