Being Unfashionable

My brother had made a name for himself as a music producer and image consultant.  I can understand why he would feel uncomfortable about having a sister who ‘doesn’t care’ about how she looks.  Let me declare that he’d been giving me tips for years; it is my decision to ignore them.

I do, of course, look at a mirror.  It is conveniently placed above my washbasin so that I cannot avoid the reflection of myself brushing my teeth and washing my face.  I even brush my hair in front of it, but this is not about me.  No one has made an official complaint or remarked on social media about my unfashionable looks; I’m a nobody.

…why did he do it?

My friend asked me this question about a television host who does not shave or dress for the camera.  I think she meant, why didn’t he do it?,  but maybe her question is not about his appearance as he is but his decision not to disguise himself as everyone expects.  It seems that unless you are Moses or Santa Claus, you must shave or at least trim your beard.  Otherwise, you get hate mail.

Being as you are is now perceived as being anti-social, or even radical, unless you’re Amish who are accepted as quaint.

To me, Society is such that being anti IT is not a bad thing.  One might ask why a man with a beard is to be loathed?  Why should people feel compelled to hide the first sign of grey on their heads?  Why should they fill the crevices of their faces with pancake (does it make them look better or scarier)?

A friend explained to me that people spend hours in front of the mirror because it makes them feel better about themselves.  In other words, they deserve better, as one advertisement suggests.  What sort of society would make a person feel that way?   A society brainwashed by commercials and  media that create stereotypes.   They dictate public perception and the average person does not have the intelligence to know that they have been manipulated.   Those who are wiser either don’t have the courage to defy their tyranny, or exploit it.  They form a mob that intimidate and coerce others to conform.

Those in the public eye must present themselves as others want to see them.  Some are  convinced that it is their own wish to be ‘fashionable’, according to the fashion factories.  Being unfashionable is a sin; it offends.

It’s too late for me but before you walk out the door, please erase your face.  You’ll feel better about yourself that way.  Or so they say.

About Mary Tang

An urban orchardist everyday, a volunteer regularly, a poet sometimes and a blogger since March 2015. I travel when I can. Food is a constant.
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6 Responses to Being Unfashionable

  1. I don’t much study my reflection, but how I respond to it varies, probably according to my mood. Sometimes OK, sometimes not.

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  2. mattb325 says:

    Nice post – that wouldn’t happen to be a certain Sydney-based host on the ABC would it? :-) He always copped so much flack for his beard!
    I remember being awfully uncomfortable at having to sit through listening to a manager tell a female co-worker (who suffered from acne scarring) that she should wear make-up to work: when she replied that she wore foundation, he squirmed and said that maybe she should use more!…uggh. That whole conversation still makes my skin crawl.

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    • Mary Tang says:

      People are so superficial; it makes me sick. Trouble is, once you buy into it, it’s a life sentence. There are so many people who can’t walk out of their front door with their own face that it’s tragic except when they turn around and ridicule those who can and do.

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  3. Cynthia says:

    Haha, Mary!! I am so on board with this. I don’t understand why people allow themselves to be “marketed” every which way. Many don’t even realize it. So frustrating

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